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My father has got a job in South Africa and he plans to move next month. He says he needs to take a house, settle down and then will plan to call us there. Till then, my sister, my brother, me and my mom will continue to stay here in India. I have never stayed away from my father and neither has my family. I tried to ask my father why he suddenly left his job and decided to go to another country but I got no answer. I am tense about future.
My dear friend
Change is never easy but it is an important part of life. In life, there is nothing permanent. Be it a house, a job or country. Leaving your country and going to settle down in another is a big step and is not easy. But, if your parents have planned this, it must definitely be for the best interests of all of you. Don’t worry so much. Have faith. Things will fall into place on their own. Make the best use of your time till you are here. Do take care of your mom and siblings and feel happy and excited to explore a new country. You can Google about South Africa and the place your father is starting work. It will be fun to see what the new place has to offer. Stay positive and everything will work out for you.
My father is an ex defence officer. I have experienced the life there and I really enjoy it a lot. I cannot see myself living any other life and following any other profession other than defence. I truly want to be in defence forces or I am worried I might end up in depression. My parents are happy about my decision but they also tell me to look at other career options and try and learn some different skills so that I can try a different career if I am unsuccessful at defence. I don’t want to do any of those.
I can see your passion of becoming a defence officer through your words. I think your father being from the same profession must be very thrilled about it. It’s great to make your ambition your passion but never be obsessed about it. Life has so much more to offer than you can ever imagine. Keeping your options open about other career paths will put your mind and heart at ease while you can devote your 100% to becoming what you desire, it is also important to keep an open mind so that you do not end up in depression later. Life has amazing choices. Your parents just want you to learn another skill and keep it for future. Think about it with an open mind and look at other skills that might interest you while you still keep your passion alive. All the best!
Ms. Nidhi Jha holds a masters degree in social work from Delhi University. She has over 12 years of experience working with children with development issues and has extensive experience counselling adolescent children both in India and abroad. She has worked with children’s services of the U.K. government and delivered services for children in need. She also conducts personality enhancement workshops for children and adolescents.
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